“One Day At A Time.” Blah, blah, blah.

”One day at a time” they say. Easier said than done, especially for a type-A, ultra organized control freak.

One Day At A Time

I hated that saying for a long time. Some days I still do. I mean, if you only go one day at a time, that seems pretty unorganized. If I’m busy only worrying about today, how can I be ready for tomorrow? Plus, it sounds sooooo cliche. (Insert eye roll.)

I always have a plan. Always. I know what I’m doing next week, next month, next year. And, of course, I’ve played every possible scenario in my head to go with every plan.  So when I kept hearing that saying early in sobriety, it baffled me. It took me a long time to grasp what that actually means. For me, it means I have to let go of all expectations, regardless of the plans. And I have to stop focusing so much on the “plans” themselves.  In sobriety, living one day at a time is critical to success. I have to remain sober for one day – today. Then I have to do the same thing tomorrow. And the day after that. And so on.

When I think of sobriety for a lifetime, it stinks. Actually, it sucks. Big time.  It annoys me. I’m not sure why I even think that way.  I enjoy being sober. I’m more productive, happier, clear headed. So why does it bother me so much? Probably because I over think it. It’s an oxymoron.  I have to live one day at a time – forever.

3 thoughts on ““One Day At A Time.” Blah, blah, blah.

  1. In my (albeit brief) experience sober — I’m almost seven months — staying sober occupies less of your brain as time goes on. I think part of it is that we are so used to being told to achieve and self-improve and yada yada yada that we think we can pile the intense emotional work of change in to our “schedules” as if our time and energy is infinite. It’s just not true. You really do have to put some other things in your life on hold to focus on sobriety, but “one day at a time” doesn’t suck up all of your energy and attention forever!

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  2. 🙂 yeah, a contradiction that works. I never used to understand why I was told not to do it – for now, how on earth that was meant to help if I would soon and if I couldn’t soon it was forever… until it helped me – to stay safe just for the moment.
    Have a calm day…

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  3. @findingasobermiracle, I accidentally deleted your comment which was so helpful. Thanks for reading and offering your words of wisdom and experience. Darn it that the “Like” button is way too close to the “trash” button!!

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